Tinder is a popular way to meet new people, go on dates, and perhaps enjoy some late nights with a friendly soul. You'll hear many folks singing the praises of the “dating” app, swiping incessantly, throwing out awful pickup lines, and generally having a great time. It's become so huge in the last few months, the Atlanta Hawks even hosted a “Swipe right for Tinder” night, featuring suites to meet in at halftime with roses and mints. I've been Tindering for a few months now, so when the opportunity came up to find some alternatives to the app, I thought it would be a great way to go on a few dates, makes some friends, and get some work done all at once.
Maybe I was a little optimistic, but I figured I would get at least a couple replies, maybe a few nice conversations, and if I met someone for drinks? That's just gravy. A few days later, armed with a slew of awkward selfies and broken dreams, I came to the realization that, while these apps work as advertised, maybe I'm the problem. I think I need to reevaluate some of my life decisions.
Coffee Meets Bagel
I was used to the endless stream of faces provided by Tinder, so I want to start somewhere that emphasizes quality over quantity. Coffee Meets Bagel provides you with only one curated match, or bagel, every day at noon. You can view that matches photos, interests, a few personal details, and any mutual friends before deciding whether to like them or not. If you both like each other, you'll receive a text from a disposable cell number where you can text each other for up to a week without sharing your real phone number.
If it doesn't work out, that's okay, there will be another bagel tomorrow, and hopefully the day after that too, until you're so sick of looking at bagels who don't want to hang out with you that you swear off breakfast for a week.
I am one app in, and no messages, but that's alright. There are still plenty of options and potential matches.